What will I learn in this course?

Healing from complex trauma is a relational endeavor. Our early experiences shape the ways we see and relate to ourselves, our relationships, and the world. Ongoing trauma centers our relationships around survival and defensive coping rather than attunement and connection. Our relational survival styles often follow us into adulthood, where we struggle to feel love and a sense of belonging. Still, our ability to securely attach and attune with others never leaves us. We can begin to understand and bring compassion to our relational survival styles, while also learning how to develop our abilities to relate to ourselves and others with vulnerability, confidence, boundaries, and stability. In this course, you will learn about relational survival styles and why they make sense. You also learn skills and practices to begin developing the capacity for authentic connection and belonging.

Course curriculum

  1. 1

    • Download the Securely Attached Workbook

    • Getting to Know Sara - Author of the Survivor Wise Courses and Recovering Complex PTSD Survivor
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  4. 4

    • Our Core Developmental Relational Needs - A NARM Perspective

    • Reorienting Around Caregiver Failures

    • Generational Wounding & Compassion
  5. 5

    • Self Detachment & Fragmentation

    • Dysregulation & Disembodiment

    • Breaking Down Negative Core Beliefs
  6. 6

    • Past Attachment Styles Playing Out In Present Day Relationships

    • NARM Attachment Styles - Another Perspective

    • Which Styles Did You Use to Adapt?
  7. 7

    • Our Parts and Our Attachment Styles

    • Different Parts for Different Relationships at Different Times

    • Getting Curious About Who Is Here
  8. 8

    • What is a connection practice?

    • Examples of Connection Practices

    • Noticing During Your Connection Practice
  9. 9

    • How We Are Fundamentally Designed

    • What Secure Attachment Is and What It Is Not

    • Understanding Attunement & Contingency
  10. 10

    • Wholeness As A Stable Inner System - A Parts Work Perspective

    • The Self-Love Skills Map

    • Being On Your Own Side & Building Your Community
  11. 11

    • Presence: Learning to Be Present

    • Support: Getting Our Needs Met

    • Protection: Cultivating Relational Safety and Advocacy
  12. 12

    • Autonomy: Cultivating Freedom & Independence

    • Interdependence: Me, You, and We

    • Trust: Taking Reasonable Risk
  13. 13

    • What is true repair?

    • Being Both Compassionate and Accountable

    • The Difference Between Rupture and Disconnection
  14. 14

    • Seeking the Balance Between Freedom and Connection

    • I Am An Individual & We Are A Partnership

    • Expecting Growth & Change - Letting Go of Staying the Same
  15. 15

    • What are my next steps?

    • Revisit Your Relational Growth Map